Why i wasn't given... )): ? [ Have you given? ]

Characteristics of Proactive People.

When you are proactive, you are decisive and creating what you want in life. You Believe that you alone are responsive for what happens to you and therefore have the power to make things better. you see the world as a place of opportunity and you will explore other possibility. you know you have a choice in what you do and how you react to people and events. When you make choices, you consider the consequences on your actions and how your choice affects other people.


Characteristics of Reactive People.

If you are reactive, you blame others or circumstances for your bad moods and your lack of achievements and other problem but not yourself. You may feel powerless or depend on others to feel good about yourself or your life. You see yourself as a victim of circumstances with no choices whatsoever. In actual fact, you have just chosen not to see your choices or to take action. You tend to blame others and don't take responsibility for your action. The result is you will experience guilt, fear, anxiety and resentment.


Each day brings a new choice. Do you want to be proactive or reactive? The choice is yours..

I thought this is really useful for everyone single one of you out there..


Think.. Have you ever kept asking why can't my friends be... and ...? Why is my boyfriend not like ... why he's not giving me... ): ? Why aren't my girlfriend giving me...? Why can't my parents give me more pocket money? Why my friend's parents are able to provide them with so much, having latest phones, HD TV in the room, having so much cash everyday for school etc etc..


But have you every thought, what you can give to your parents? Can you provide them with the same amount of cash that you wanted now? Are you able to keep providing them with HD TV that you wanted? Latest phone every time and even latest gadget?


Are you able to get your parents to sleep in peace and not think of you every night while you're outside playing all day? Are you able to give joy and happiness to them?



Same come to friends/couples..  Have you ever thought what i can give rather than why i wasn't given?

Have you given/show that you really care/love him/her? Have you given a piece of your mind so he/she will understand? Did you give him/her ...?


Have you given? Have you understand him/her? Not once, not twice but every time. Not just understanding the surface of the problems' but deep in, what is it? Did you spare a thought for him/her and put yourself in his/her shoes?


Everytime, we thought we understand. But actually we don't.
Everytime we thought we've given. But actually, we didn't/ we did not show it more obviously.
Everytime we thought we did put ourselves in other people's shoe. But actually we did not.


every time we thought, but have we ever reflect? Did we actually do it?


This is kind of a wake up call for me to not asking why i don't have this and that and why can others because, i realized that i haven't been giving much most of the time. Yes.


Really thank my teacher for having this Life Skills lesson when i can really wake up and realized i belong to the 'Reactive people' group and i almost cried because i'm guilty for almost everything i've done to my family, friends etc etc..



To add on..



I've once tweeted.

If you aren't being appreciated and recognized for doing something. Don't do it.

Because, at the end of the day, you're just doing like you've done nothing and it's pointless.



You can make a person's day by smiling or offering a hug because a hug do help a lot. Do start offering hug to someone who needs it now and i bet he/she will really appreciate it (At least i do.).


TTYN. It's the end..